tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12287493743284352412024-03-14T05:26:58.617-07:00两性关系Join me to discuss problems with relationships between men and women.Jojonahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05699355645307225964noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1228749374328435241.post-42080619902571103902010-08-19T13:55:00.000-07:002010-08-19T13:55:35.250-07:00资金管理<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 22px;"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="One of the most common problem many couples suffer from is fighting over their different view in money management .">许多夫妇常见的问题是他们对资金管理不同的看法。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="My husband and I are no different.">我丈夫和我也不例外。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="I am a true believer in ZERO debts, and so claimed my husband.">我是一个零债务的忠实信徒,我的丈夫也是这么认为。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="I tried very hard to keep to my words, so the only debt I have currently is my mortgage and car payment for my husband`s car.">我极力遵守我的原则,所以我目前唯一的债务是我和我的丈夫的房屋贷款和'汽车贷款。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="On the other hand, my husband has reached record low on debt, which is his one and only credit card.">另一方面,我的丈夫已达到债务的最低记录,他唯一的信用卡。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="I have known my husband for 8 years, when I first known him, his debts was so great, he was diving in it every day.">我认识了我的丈夫8年,当我刚认识他时,他的债务之大,他每天都在他的债务里潜水。 </span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="When it comes to Money, I am the most stingiest person I know.">说到钱,我是我认识的人里最吝啬的人,。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="I am the most unwelcome person in a birthday party or secret Santa party.">我是生日或秘密圣诞老人宴会里最不受欢迎的人。反之</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="On the other hand, my husband is great when it comes to gifts.">,当谈到礼物, </span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="He has bought me a digital piano, the most gorgeous brand name bags, brand name purse, Mac, Macbook Pro, Ipod, cloths, etc for the last 6 years of our marriage.">我的丈夫是一流的。在过去的6年, 他给我买了一部数码钢琴,最华丽的名牌手表,名牌钱包,Mac,MacBook Pro,IPOD,服装,等。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Mind you, he did not start gifting expensive gifts until we were married.">你要知道,他是直到我们结婚了后才赠与昂贵的礼物。 </span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 22px;"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="He and I have separate bank accounts, and one join bank account to pay our common bills.">他和我有独立的银行帐户,和一个联名银行帐户支付共同帐单。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Yet, I am usually the one end up paying for all the generous gifts I received.">不过,通常我都得为我得到慷慨的礼物付钱。更惹我生气得是</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="This is how to top off my frustration, he was able to max out his 5K credit card in a month time after I paid it off.">他能够在1个月用了5000 美元得信用卡。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Not to mention, there is a automatic monthly payment of $800 to that credit card.">更何况,每月自动支付800元的。 </span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="What is the purpose for me to share my frustration?">来分享是</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Many couple ended up divorce because of the situation I just mentioned because they felt betrayed, disappointed, trapped, and much more when they realized their situation after they were married.">什么目的?不少夫妇因为我刚才所说的情况<span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Many couple ended up divorce because of the situation I just mentioned because they felt betrayed, disappointed, trapped, and much more when they realized their situation after they were married.">离婚,因为他们感到背叛,失望,被困,以及更多。他们结了婚后了才<span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: #ebeff9;" title="Many couple ended up divorce because of the situation I just mentioned because they felt betrayed, disappointed, trapped, and much more when they realized their situation after they were married.">意识到他们的情况。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Difference in money management is so important that it should be discussed thoroughly for every couple who are seriously thinking about marriage.">资金管理的区别非常重要,每对对婚姻认真得情侣都应该仔细思量。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="And one more thing, ones money management view does not easily changed.">还有一点,理财的观点并不容易改变。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="So if he or she does not change before getting married, he or she most likely will not change after getting married.">因此,如果他或她并没有在结婚之前改变<span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="So if he or she does not change before getting married, he or she most likely will not change after getting married.">,他或她最不会<span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="So if he or she does not change before getting married, he or she most likely will not change after getting married.">有可能在结婚后改变<span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: #ebeff9;" title="So if he or she does not change before getting married, he or she most likely will not change after getting married.">。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Good luck!">祝你好运!</span></span></span></span></span></span></span><br />
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</span></span>Jojonahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05699355645307225964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1228749374328435241.post-88852597544041270312010-08-19T13:30:00.000-07:002010-08-19T13:30:49.838-07:00Money ManagementOne of the most common problem many couples suffer from is fighting over their different view in money management . My husband and I are no different. I am a true believer in ZERO debts, and so claimed my husband. I tried very hard to keep to my words, so the only debt I have currently is my mortgage and car payment for my husband`s car. On the other hand, my husband has reached record low on debt, which is his one and only credit card. I have known my husband for 8 years, when I first known him, his debts was so great, he was diving in it every day.<br />
When it comes to Money, I am the most stingiest person I know. I am the most unwelcome person in a birthday party or secret Santa party. On the other hand, my husband is great when it comes to gifts. He has bought me a digital piano, the most gorgeous brand name bags, brand name purse, Mac, Macbook Pro, Ipod, cloths, etc for the last 6 years of our marriage. Mind you, he did not start gifting expensive gifts until we were married.<br />
He and I have separate bank accounts, and one join bank account to pay our common bills. Yet, I am usually the one end up paying for all the generous gifts I received. This is how to top off my frustration, he was able to max out his 5K credit card in a month time after I paid it off. Not to mention, there is a automatic monthly payment of $800 to that credit card.<br />
What is the purpose for me to share my frustration? Many couple ended up divorce because of the situation I just mentioned because they felt betrayed, disappointed, trapped, and much more when they realized their situation after they were married. Difference in money management is so important that it should be discussed thoroughly for every couple who are seriously thinking about marriage. And one more thing, ones money management view does not easily changed. So if he or she does not change before getting married, he or she most likely will not change after getting married. Good luck!<br />
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Jojonahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05699355645307225964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1228749374328435241.post-71990064613444339682010-06-20T10:10:00.000-07:002010-06-20T10:10:16.052-07:005种爱的语言<span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span style="background-color: white;" title="">我的朋友问我:我要怎么显示我的我对</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span style="background-color: white;" title="">女朋友</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span style="background-color: white;" title="">的爱? </span><span title="">“简单,首先要学习她的主要的爱语言(由加里查普曼5爱的语言)。 </span><span style="background-color: white;" title="">“什么是爱的语言?是否行得通?”</span><span title="">他问道。 </span><span title="">“当然”, 我回答。<br />
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</span><span title="">我</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span title="">是在工作时</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span title="">碰到“5种爱的语言”。</span><span title="">它不仅帮助我的个案,但最重要的是帮助了我和我的家人相处。</span><span title="">以下解释了爱的5种语言,我会在下一次提供的我个人的经历。</span><span title="">我希望它 可以帮助你,也希望你能与我分享你的故事。</span></span><br />
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<span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="" 1. Words of Affirmation">1。爱的誓词 </span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="*"><br />
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</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Actions don’t always speak louder than
words.">行动并不总是胜于言语。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="If this is your
love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you.">如果这是你爱的语言,意思包含了不请自来的致意,感谢的话,</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the
reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward.">被肯定的话等。 “我爱你”3个字,是重要的。听后,爱你的 精神会向天空发送。反之,</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.">侮辱</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Insults can leave you shattered
and are not easily forgotten.">的话不容易遗忘</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.">,可以令他人离开你。 <br />
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<span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Quality Time"> <br />
</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Quality Time">质 量的相处时间 </span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing
says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention.">就是:“我爱你,想充分,把全副精 力给你”。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Being there for this type of person is critical,
but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all
chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly
special and loved.">这是至关重要的,和他在一起时,没有电视,食物,所有的工作。 这会使你的另一半真正感到特别的爱。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Distractions,
postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.">分心,推迟日期,或不听,有害于爱的。 <br />
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</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="3.">3。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Receiving Gifts">接收礼品 <br />
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</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Don't mistake this love language for
materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness,
and effort behind the gift.">请不要误会这是唯物主义爱的语言,接收的礼物是在乎礼物背后的努力和</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Don't mistake
this love language for
materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness,
and effort behind the gift.">体贴</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Don't mistake this love language for
materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness,
and effort behind the gift.">。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="If you speak this language, the perfect
gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are
prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.">如果这是你的语言,你会</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="If you speak
this language, the perfect
gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are
prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.">更看重如何受到礼物</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="If you speak
this language, the perfect
gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are
prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.">,他人的关心</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="If you speak
this language, the perfect
gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are
prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.">,而不是 礼物的</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="If you speak
this language, the perfect
gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are
prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.">珍贵</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="If you speak this language, the perfect
gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are
prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.">。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="A missed birthday,
anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would
the absence of everyday gestures.">错过了生日,周年纪念,或草率,轻率的礼物将是不可原谅的,所以会在日常中也要有所表达。 <br />
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</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="4.">4。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Acts of Service">服务行为 <br />
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</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Can vacuuming the floors really be an
expression of love?">吸尘确实是一种爱的表达?</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Absolutely!">当然!</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing
on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes.">你做什么,以减轻负担的“服务行为”, </span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Acts of
Service">服务行为 </span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing
on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes.">人都会很感动。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me
do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for
them tell speakers of this language their feelings don't matter.">这些话是他或她最想听到:“让我为你做的“。懒惰,承诺了而又没有达到,或令他们的工作更多,是告诉他们,感情并不重要。 <br />
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</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="5.">5。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Physical Touch">身体接触 <br />
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</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="This language isn’t all about the
bedroom.">这种语言是不是只是在房里。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="A person whose
primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy.">一个人的主要语言是身体的接触是不足为奇的。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on
the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement,
concern, care, and love.">拥抱,在背部拍,手牵着手,并在手臂,肩膀,</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Hugs, pats on the back, holding
hands, and thoughtful touches on
the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement,
concern, care, and love.">关心,照顾周到接触和爱</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on
the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement,
concern, care, and love.">或面对面 的方式,他们都可以表现出兴奋</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="A person whose
primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy.">,对</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Physical
Touch">身体接触 </span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="A person whose
primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy.">非 常敏 感</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on
the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement,
concern, care, and love.">。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Physical presence and accessibility are
crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.">他们要求常常陪在身边,是至关重要的,不然被忽视或虐待是不可原 谅的。 </span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title=""">“ <br />
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<b>What is acceptance? Acceptance</b> is when a person agrees to experience a situation, to follow a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it. (from Wikipedia)<br />
What is to compromise? To compromise is to make a deal where someone gives up part of, or all of its <a class="mw-redirect" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demand" title="Demand">demand</a>. In <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argument" title="Argument">arguments</a>, <b>compromise</b> is a concept of finding <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agreement" title="Agreement">agreement</a> through <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Communication" title="Communication">communication</a>, through a mutual <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acceptance" title="Acceptance">acceptance</a> of terms—often involving variations from an original <a class="mw-redirect" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Objective_%28goal%29" title="Objective (goal)">goal</a> or desire. (from Wikipedia)<br />
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Interestingly, both words do not involve changing the other person. However, most people in relationship really was thinking of changing the other person yet they call it acceptance or compromising. <br />
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relationship advice, because he and his girlfriend had several fights
and his girlfriend asked for some time off over lunch.">我的朋友要我给他一些关于爱情的咨询意见,因为他和他的女 友吵了好几个</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="My friend wanted me to give him some
relationship advice, because he and his girlfriend had several fights
and his girlfriend asked for some time off over lunch.">架。 他的女友在午餐时间要求平静的想想。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="He told me they fought over littlest thing.">他告诉我,他们总是为了一点点小事</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="My friend wanted me to give him
some
relationship advice, because he and his girlfriend had several fights
and his girlfriend asked for some time off over lunch.">吵</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="My friend wanted me to give him
some
relationship advice, because he and his girlfriend had several fights
and his girlfriend asked for some time off over lunch.">架</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="He told me they fought over littlest thing.">。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="One thing they
fight the most is about her interactions with her guy friends.">有一点最</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="My friend wanted me to give him
some
relationship advice, because he and his girlfriend had several fights
and his girlfriend asked for some time off over lunch.">常吵</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="My friend wanted me to give him
some
relationship advice, because he and his girlfriend had several fights
and his girlfriend asked for some time off over lunch.">架</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="One thing they
fight the most is about her interactions with her guy friends.">的是有关她与她的男性朋友来往的方式。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="He
kick her out of his house and hang up her call during fights.">他把她赶出家门,并挂断她电话。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="He asked me what should he do?">他问我应该怎么办呢?</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="If he should give her time to think about what she wants?">他是否应该给她时间去思考自己想要的东西?</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="If he should
compromise?">他要妥协?</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Or if he should
accept it and work towards changing it later which he called it
acceptance to compromise.">或者他应该接受它,</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Or if he should
accept it and work towards changing it later which he called it
acceptance to compromise.">以后</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Or if he should
accept it and work towards changing it later which he called it
acceptance to compromise.">才努力改变它,他称之为 接受妥协。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="At least he was honest.">至少他是诚实的。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Many people in
relationship, especially at the beginning of a relationship, would
"accept" the other person as it is, but unconsciously they
were thinking about "compromising" the other person later on.">许多人在谈恋爱的时候, 特别是在开始的时候,会“接受”,但他们不自觉地的想</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Many people in
relationship, especially at the beginning of a relationship, would
"accept" the other person as it is, but unconsciously they
were thinking about "compromising" the other person later on.">“妥 协”</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Many people in
relationship, especially at the beginning of a relationship, would
"accept" the other person as it is, but unconsciously they
were thinking about "compromising" the other person later on.">他人。 <br />
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</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="What is acceptance?">什么是</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Many people in
relationship, especially at the beginning of a relationship, would
"accept" the other person as it is, but unconsciously they
were thinking about "compromising" the other person later on.">“接 受”</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="What is acceptance?">?</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Many people in
relationship, especially at the beginning of a relationship, would
"accept" the other person as it is, but unconsciously they
were thinking about "compromising" the other person later on.">“接 受”</span></span><span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="Acceptance is when a
person agrees to experience a situation, to follow a process or
condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without
attempting to change it.">是当一个人同意的情况的经验,遵循一个过程或条件 (通常是负面或不舒服的情况),而不试图去改变它。 </span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="(from Wikipedia)">(来自维基百科) <br />
</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="What is to compromise?">什么是"妥协"?</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="To compromise is to make a deal where someone gives up part of,
or all of its demand.">妥协是一个过程,有人放弃部分或全部的需求。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="In arguments,
compromise is a concept of finding agreement through communication,
through a mutual acceptance of terms—often involving variations from an
original goal or desire.">在争论时,妥协是通过沟通找到概念,往 往涉及从原先的目标和愿望的变化彼此接纳。 </span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="(from Wikipedia)">(来自维基百科) <br />
</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Interestingly, both words do not involve
changing the other person."> </span></span><br />
<span class="long_text" id="result_box"><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" title="Interestingly, both words do not involve
changing the other person.">有趣的是,这两个词并不涉及改变其他人。</span><span onmouseout="this.style.backgroundColor='#fff'" onmouseover="this.style.backgroundColor='#ebeff9'" style="background-color: white;" title="However, most
people in relationship really was thinking of changing the other person
yet they call it acceptance or compromising.">然而,大多数的人的在爱情关系里真的是想改变另一半却称之为接受 或妥协。</span></span><br />
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He continued telling me that his girl friend has introduced him to her best friends in real life and she has also scheduled to let her parents meet him. Yet, all these were not as important as declaring their relationship on Facebook. He was upset. Not only he picked fight twice in a week, he also kick her out of his house after the second fight.<br />
How important is it to have " XXX is in a relationship with XXX" on Facebook? It is about principle, he said. Is it the same principle with wearing ones wedding ring? If so, then the principle means to reassure your love one by telling the world "don't even think about it, I am already taken".<br />
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For an example, you were late for your date. Your date said"You told me you'd be here at 5:30 and here it is, 6:30!" An active listening response would be "You sound angry." There will not be any judgments or criticism, but merely a statement to show other person know you have heard the message. <br />
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Active listening is one of the most used skills by me in my counseling sessions, and it works every time and works like wonder. My clients will open up, feel validated and heard. However, active listening does not work most of the time in my relationship with my husband. Instead of opening up, he shuts down, ignore my response, denied his feelings or asked me not to talk to him as if I were in a counseling session.<br />
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I had to come up with another way to communicate with him. I figured out the reason active listening does not work for my husband is because statements like "you sound angry" gets too personal for him and it puts him on the spot. So, instead of using "you", I use "that".<br />
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In the same situation above, if he says "You told me you'd be here at 5:30 and here it is, 6:30!" My response will be " That must sucks for all the waiting." It provides him an opportunity to vent and communicate with each other.<br />
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For anyone out there who would like to improve their communication skill, and when active listening skill does not work for you, try this little alternate technique. <br />
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Jojonahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05699355645307225964noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1228749374328435241.post-85963016610528978462010-04-28T00:11:00.000-07:002010-04-28T00:11:12.699-07:00Ways to show loveMy friend asked me: How do I show my girlfriend my love for her? "simple, first learn her primary love language" ( The 5 love Languages by Gary Chapman). " What is love language? Does it work?" He asked. "of course, it works"<br />
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I came across The 5 love languages during my practice. It not only helped my client, but most of all it helped my relationships with my family. It also explained many things that has been bothering me through my life. Bellow explained what The 5 love languages are, I will provide personal stories next time. I hope it helps you, and hope you will share your stories with me.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #747474; font-family: Verdana, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold;"> " 1. Words of Affirmation</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #747474; font-family: Verdana, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;"><ul id="lovelanguageslist" style="list-style-image: initial; list-style-position: initial; list-style-type: none; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><li id="affirmation" style="-webkit-background-clip: initial; -webkit-background-origin: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-color: initial; background-image: url(http://www.5lovelanguages.com/wp-content/themes/moody_1.0/images/LLwords.jpg); background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: no-repeat; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-height: 120px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 214px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><div style="margin-bottom: 16px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.</div></li>
<li id="time" style="-webkit-background-clip: initial; -webkit-background-origin: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-color: initial; background-image: url(http://www.5lovelanguages.com/wp-content/themes/moody_1.0/images/LLtime.jpg); background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: no-repeat; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-height: 120px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 214px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><h5 style="color: #747474; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 15px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">2. Quality Time</h5><div style="margin-bottom: 16px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.</div></li>
<li id="gifts" style="-webkit-background-clip: initial; -webkit-background-origin: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-color: initial; background-image: url(http://www.5lovelanguages.com/wp-content/themes/moody_1.0/images/LLgifts.jpg); background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: no-repeat; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-height: 120px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 214px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><h5 style="color: #747474; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 15px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">3. Receiving Gifts</h5><div style="margin-bottom: 16px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.</div></li>
<li id="service" style="-webkit-background-clip: initial; -webkit-background-origin: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-color: initial; background-image: url(http://www.5lovelanguages.com/wp-content/themes/moody_1.0/images/LLservice.jpg); background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: no-repeat; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-height: 120px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 214px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><h5 style="color: #747474; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 15px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">4. Acts of Service</h5><div style="margin-bottom: 16px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.</div></li>
<li id="touch" style="-webkit-background-clip: initial; -webkit-background-origin: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-color: initial; background-image: url(http://www.5lovelanguages.com/wp-content/themes/moody_1.0/images/LLtouch.jpg); background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: no-repeat; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; min-height: 120px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 214px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><h5 style="color: #747474; font-size: 15px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 15px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">5. Physical Touch</h5><div style="margin-bottom: 16px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. " </div><div style="margin-bottom: 16px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">(Source: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/)</div></li>
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